I hold you up above me and you laugh, a rich chortle that builds into squealing giggles as I raise you high again and again, then hold you close to me. You wriggle and breathe in my ear as your laughter fades. We go out, and I proudly wheel your pram through familiar streets which are the only streets you have ever known, while this city is still a little alien to me. I am from another city further north, and I want to take you there again soon. You were too young to notice much when we went for the first time.
I wait at a crossing with you and tell you we must wait for the green man to light up. You grin at me from beneath layers of coat and hat, your tiny face a shining beacon that makes me feel so much stronger. I see your mummy's face mingled with my own features in you. I see her strength and determination in you already.
We go home and you wait patiently for me to get you out of your outdoor things so you can play with your toys in the living room.
I put on the TV and we cuddle a bit while I play you old cartoons from my own childhood. We play, you stand up a few times, and one time I am too late to catch you when you fall. Your tears hurt me. I hold you and tell you I'm sorry I didn't catch you, and that I love you. You turn to me and sniff, then kick your legs against me and laugh. All is well again. You're perfect, and I am once again astounded that I helped to create you.
I sit you in your high chair and struggle to get the straps from underneath your bottom so I can slip your arms through them. I should have thought of that before, but you don't mind me lifting you a bit to get to them as your favourite show is on TV and your little eyes are glued to animated antics. I call your name once you're safely strapped in and you have a bib on.
You look at me and say “Da-da-nanana-da-sheee” while I scoop a spoonful of dinner up ready for you. You take it from the spoon and a little ends up on your cheek. You are so beautiful, my son. You sit there enjoying your dinner with me, and I resist the urge to admire the adorable fact you have only got one sock on, as I should be concentrating on feeding you.
I read your bedtime story to you later on, and you watch me from beneath heavy eyelids before you drift off into dreams. I check on you in the night. Maybe too often. I can't help it. I love you my boy, and being your daddy is the most wonderful experience of my life. I am so grateful for you my son. I hope you know. I really hope you know.
Thursday 28 February 2013
Monday 11 February 2013
It's okay, little man
It breaks my heart when my son has a bad dream. Holding him close while it passes, with his tears against me and his little voice in my ears, I realise he sees a strength and safety in me that I've never seen in myself. Being a daddy is a series of daunting realisations, as well as a series of moments that no amount of wealth could ever buy.
Dream Feed
My son's dream-feed. Precious silent minutes holding my son in the semi-darkness, listening to him drink his milk and breathe softly, minutes where nothing else matters but his warmth and the reassuring weight of him upon my lap. I never tire of his serene little face, wondering what dreams cross the mind of my baby boy. Moments I savour. Moments I will always treasure.
Monday 10 December 2012
Seems like a good time to come back.
Hey. I've been up since 3am with my son, now 7 months old, who has a cold which has been keeping him awake and very upset. I'm downstairs now, and he's asleep under a blanket beside me while I write this.
The past seven months have been a revelation. So much happiness mixed with so much stress and so little sleep. It's time I came back to this project and picked up where I left off. I'll take you through his life so far, month by month, in forthcoming posts.
Right now I just needed to reach out a bit and let you know that, apart from the cold tonight and some baby eczema, all is well.
That is, now that I've got used to the giant lack of rest, very little free time, the massive amount of cash being spent, the constant worry and the catalogue of unexpected bodily explosions.
But he's worth every second of it.
That's something people don't tell you when you become a parent. They tell you all about how awful you'll feel, how poor and how run-down, but the thing that 99% of people fail to mention is the fact that it's all worth it.
You change as a person. Your priorities change massively, with your child becoming the centre of your world very quickly and shoving everything else you used to do aside. But that's okay. It's fine, as instead you will raise a healthy and happy baby, rather than focussing on things that never really mattered all that much anyway.
Your social life and hobbies don't disappear completely, but they do have to take a back seat, as no matter how much they meant at one time, now there is something so much more important in your life.
I love my son more than anything, and it is a bond which continues to strengthen with the more he grows and understands.
Every day has been difficult and beautiful in almost equal measure, and once I can think straight, I'll bring you up to speed on what the hell has been going on for the past seven months.
I'm sorry I haven't written here much. I've been learning to be a first time daddy. I don't think I'll ever get the hang of it, but I'm doing my best. For him. For my boy. My beautiful boy.
He's still asleep beside me, and that look of serenity on his face after hours of being upset - that's wonderful.
I hope you first time parents are doing well.
The past seven months have been a revelation. So much happiness mixed with so much stress and so little sleep. It's time I came back to this project and picked up where I left off. I'll take you through his life so far, month by month, in forthcoming posts.
Right now I just needed to reach out a bit and let you know that, apart from the cold tonight and some baby eczema, all is well.
That is, now that I've got used to the giant lack of rest, very little free time, the massive amount of cash being spent, the constant worry and the catalogue of unexpected bodily explosions.
But he's worth every second of it.
That's something people don't tell you when you become a parent. They tell you all about how awful you'll feel, how poor and how run-down, but the thing that 99% of people fail to mention is the fact that it's all worth it.
You change as a person. Your priorities change massively, with your child becoming the centre of your world very quickly and shoving everything else you used to do aside. But that's okay. It's fine, as instead you will raise a healthy and happy baby, rather than focussing on things that never really mattered all that much anyway.
Your social life and hobbies don't disappear completely, but they do have to take a back seat, as no matter how much they meant at one time, now there is something so much more important in your life.
I love my son more than anything, and it is a bond which continues to strengthen with the more he grows and understands.
Every day has been difficult and beautiful in almost equal measure, and once I can think straight, I'll bring you up to speed on what the hell has been going on for the past seven months.
I'm sorry I haven't written here much. I've been learning to be a first time daddy. I don't think I'll ever get the hang of it, but I'm doing my best. For him. For my boy. My beautiful boy.
He's still asleep beside me, and that look of serenity on his face after hours of being upset - that's wonderful.
I hope you first time parents are doing well.
Wednesday 20 June 2012
Monday 23 April 2012
And then everything changed.
Welcome to the world, my beautiful son.
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The blog will continue shortly, with lots of new content for dads like me, including much more on the pregnancy itself and a hefty reality check regarding the delivery.
I hope you're all well.
I am so proud to be a daddy.
Thursday 5 April 2012
Breastfeeding Doesn't Freak Me Out
Am I weird? Am I some kind of freak? It seems that, amongst the men I know, I appear to be the only one who isn't freaked out by Breastfeeding. I actually think it's quite lovely, and not just because I get to see some flesh. I'm shallow, but I'm not that shallow.
The notion that once our son is here, my girl will continue to provide sustenance for him for a while is quite humbling. I'm a bloke. We do our bit at the beginning and then have none of the physical effects of pregnancy to deal with, even though we do have to undergo some pretty apocalyptic stress issues (well, I am doing anyway).
At the Antenatal classes, we were told a little about breastfeeding, but I've learned more from other sources, and the process doesn't unnerve me at all. I think it's lovely. Does that make me odd? I'm no 'new man' or whatever the term is for someone terrified of being politically incorrect once in a while. I'm Northern and I like bacon. I also think breastfeeding is a natural and lovely thing to do, and am looking forward to seeing my son doing what is natural.
Somewhere deep inside my being, the fifteen-year-old me is screaming; “But dude... boobs!”
Growing up is weird.
The notion that once our son is here, my girl will continue to provide sustenance for him for a while is quite humbling. I'm a bloke. We do our bit at the beginning and then have none of the physical effects of pregnancy to deal with, even though we do have to undergo some pretty apocalyptic stress issues (well, I am doing anyway).
At the Antenatal classes, we were told a little about breastfeeding, but I've learned more from other sources, and the process doesn't unnerve me at all. I think it's lovely. Does that make me odd? I'm no 'new man' or whatever the term is for someone terrified of being politically incorrect once in a while. I'm Northern and I like bacon. I also think breastfeeding is a natural and lovely thing to do, and am looking forward to seeing my son doing what is natural.
Somewhere deep inside my being, the fifteen-year-old me is screaming; “But dude... boobs!”
Growing up is weird.
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